I honestly don't understand what all the fuss is about anniversaries forgotten by husbands and boyfriends. Yes, I know it is a special day to commemorate your love for each other. It is the one day in the year that you have for yourselves to remember that special day when you first "joined forces".
I have been with my partner/fiance/husband for five years now, we just turned five years 5 days ago...apparently....and we've celebrated our anniversary (i think only twice?) in the span of our five year relationship. Not one single time have we fought about it though. Come to think of it, I think we've had...but during those two years that we actually celebrated it. The fight was probably due to the pressure of making plans for that special day and making sure everything was "perfect".
Yes we all want a fairytale life, being a princess saved by a prince from day to day stress. We want someone to take us away from it all, and be successful at it.
That's a big role to play for our partners, not to mention extremely stressful. Don't get me wrong, I love romantic evenings. But I personally prefer them to be spontaneous.
We don't deliberately "forget" our anniversary. We're just not the type of people to keep up with dates....Or I guess dates just don't mean much to us ( which I'm terribly grateful to have found someone just the way I am, in some parts). Once we do get conscious that the current date has passed our anniversary, all we do is smile at each other, give each other a kiss and maybe a bit more and just be thankful that another year passed us by that quickly....like a breeze.
Anniversaries aren't that important to me, if you care to hear my own humble opinion. Yes i would love to celebrate them (if I remember), but I wouldn't want an extravagant affair. Maybe just have a quiet meal, a movie or a few drinks. Nothing too extravagant that you have to stress out days before about what your going to wear, reservations, and the amount of money you don't have and can't afford but will spend on your partner just to have a "memorable" anniversary gift.
Sometimes, celebrating your anniversary (to me, at least) could be like a sigh of relief....something like: "wow, can't believe we lasted through that year! cheers, and may we have the strength to last another year!" Yes, we all feel that way sometimes but at the end of the day, true and lasting relationships should feel effortless and part of your existence. Nothing out of the extraordinary that YOU HAVE TO CELEBRATE. Yes, of course go out and have fun, if you remember, but if you or your partner fails to keep track of their calenders, don't fret. It's just another day to tick off the rest of the wonderful days you must look forward to spending together in the future.
Try to make a few minutes of your day, everyday, your anniversary!
If your kid is anything like mine then you would strongly agree with me when I say that just the mere sight of a bundle of kangkong is enough to start them gagging. Its look, texture, and taste just don’t appeal to them the same way a colorful box of chicken nuggets do.
I remember how my parents and grandparents would force me to eat mouth-fulls of the stuff accompanied with threats like: “You cannot leave the table until every last morsel on your plate is devoured.” and “No playing outside until you finish your food!” Life was much easier for them. Nowadays, this kind of table-side behavior is no longer acceptable due to the fact that it was found to be the leading cause of eating disorders. (God bless our elders, they didn’t know any better but we all know they meant well.)
We all want our children to grow up as strong, healthy and confident individuals. But sometimes, it can get really stressful for both us parents and our child. Meal times can resemble battle zones and screaming matches with food all over our clothes, tables and floor. Nothing good comes out of it, just mostly wasted tears and frustrated parents.
The best way to resolve the “vegetable issue” is to disguise them into food our children will want to eat on their own accord.
What do your kids enjoy eating? A little bit of research on your part will do a world of wonders for you and your family. Feeding them their healthy dose of fruits and vegetables doesn’t have to mean your average “ginisang gulay” daily or a banana after meals. You can cook pancit with lots of carrots, baguio beans, bellpeppers, all the vegetables you want! Just make sure you chop them finely and don’t over-cook so their little teeth won’t have a hard time chewing through them and you don’t loose their valuable nutrients. Pasta is also another clever way of easing greens into your kids diet. You can also make squash cakes, ice pops, bread dips, savory soups, omelettes and pizza! The list goes on. If you’re lacking on ideas, visit vegan websites for recipes. They contain a plethora of yummy dishes.
My favorite way of disguising fruits and veggies is by making veggie-fruit shakes. The breakfast of champions! It’s also a great opportunity for you to squeeze in some quality time with your child. My daughter loves making these with me. Since they are so simple and quick to make, a child as young as three or maybe even two, can help out. Another plus to these shakes? You serve your veggies raw which means you pack in all its valuable vitamins and nutrients. Trust me, a 500ml glass of ice-cold refreshing goodness is easier for kids to down than a plate-full of rice and sauteed vegetables.
It is a time in your life when you are faced with emptiness and an overwhelming desire for change. It is boredom with routine, a midlife crisis, or a lost dream that was never fulfilled .
What makes a person regret?
We have all made decisions in our life that we later questioned. We are intelligent beings that have been trained to be inquisitive since the first day our legs were strong enough to explore the world. This type of nature has led to many great discoveries, inventions and schools of though but have also been the cause of many disasters and premature deaths.
Soren Kierkegaard, a famous philosopher, was quoted at saying that: “there are two possible situations - one can either do this or that. My honest opinion and my friendly advice is this: do it or do not do it - you will regret both.” We are a species that is never satisfied. Gluttons of the earth. We can never have enough of something and most often we just want more.
It is simple to say that we must be happy with what we have and not long for those we lack; that regret and what if’s only bring further despair and longing. But life is short. We are not placed here to conform to anyone’s ideals. We are here to have our cake and eat it too.
Regret comes from choices we have made in the past. The key word here is past therefore meaning that pondering on regret is like trying to find a way through a dead-end street. There is no getting around it and forcing your way through will only prove to be ultimately frustrating.
The only way to work with regret is to not work against it but to find a way around it. Similar to how water behaves when it is faced with an obstacle. It does not fight through it but looks for another path instead.
The next time a thought of regret occurs to you, try to discover and save the dream that was attached to it instead of wallowing in sorrow while being buried slowly with “what if’s”. There just might be some part of that dream that is salvageable. Maybe this time, we will be smarter from the mistakes we have made in the past. Maybe this time, we can do it right.
I warn the reader that this post will contain random ramblings and at some certain point may not even make much sense. There are just things that I have to lay out and get rid of it so I can go on to write the stuff that I need to for money ;).
YUCK! Those are gallstones stuck in a gallbladder. I am one of the 16-22 million people in the world plagued with symptomatic gallstones. The space between my attacks has been getting narrower and narrower recently therefore preventing me to live and exist as a normal human being. I did my first bout of cleansing a week ago, the first few days were fine but the last 2 days were short something short of hellish. I have missed many parties, trips and deadlines due to these pesky little (sometimes big) balls of hardened green mush stuck in my gallbladder.
I have a 3 year old daughter that I adore even if her feet often find my left side in the middle of the night with a "dead-weight kick".
I have 3 articles I need to write on 3 different topics not relating to each other which I haven't even gotten started on eventhough it was assigned to me last week.
Gallstones have made me feel "average", which totally depresses me because up until a few months ago, I used to see myself as an invincible goddess/ruler of the night and pacific regions.
All I really want to do is get my life back into what it used to be. I feel uninspired, defeated and helpless. The only thing on my mind most of the time is when will I be rid of the pesky "vermins"!